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Working with and getting to know Pam has been and is one of the most incredible experiences of my life. When I started on my journey to find my birthmom, I was scared and afraid and was at a point of giving up. Pam is not only comforting and understanding, she is encouraging and compassionate all the while maintaining her professionalism and responsibility. Actually, she is like a mother to you. That's what separates Pam from the pack, she cares about everyone she works for, she just doesn't work for you, she cares about you and the outcome of your situation. We've become good friends.
- DMC of RUN DMC and Sheila Jaffe with children attending Camp Felix, an organization founded by them to help foster children attend camp


Pamela connected me with my Birth Mother
. I was told by two other agencies that there was little hope for me in finding her and that she is probably dead. I called Pamela and spoke with her over the phone. Immediately I was being asked questions that these other agencies did not even think to ask me. I felt her concern and consideration for me with the first five minutes of speaking with Pamela. I felt she really cared! She wanted results and so did I. Within the first week she found her maiden name and the following week I received a call from Pamela telling me she located her! I was amazed at her tenacity and quick results. I think her personal experience in adoption has a lot to do with her performance. Pamela knows what it feels like to be adopted. If anyone is contemplating hiring and investigator, contemplate no more, give Pamela Slaton a call and connect with your birth family.

You are wonderful, I'm glad Darryl found you. You were soooo nuturing, loving and caring to him but then he's easy to love. You and I haven't had a chance to talk about how that experience affected me or my side of "The Journey". When you called Jayyidah, she forgot to give me your message. She was married, raising to sons, working and going to college. It wasn't until after the first telephone call from Darryl that she remembered some woman had called wanting information about the Lovelace family. She also told me that she had met Darryl. Years ago, she and a friend of her's went to a studio in Times Square to be in a Ghostbusters II video. She spent about four hours with Run DMC and a group called the Hurricanes. Jayyidah didn't know she had a brother and Darryl didn't know he was adopted. I believe, that's why she was the first person you found. Jayyidah and Darryl's energy was stong and stayed connected. Divine intervention. I watched the Video again when Jackie said the clip they're showing is the telephone call and actual reunion. I wasn't as calm as Darrly thought I was. Like him, I couldn't breath. My "Inner Child" (the voice in my head) was telling me to "Breath, Breath". There were lots of thoughs playing and replaying in my head. I was also dealing with my "Inner Child" yelling at me for saying, "it's possible". "It's possible, you know he's your son, why did you say that, that's the dumbest thing you've ever said. He's talking to you, answer him, say something". But, it all went well, it was Real. You probally don't know, when I spoke to Darryl (Lovelace) the second time he told me he was a musician. I ask him if he played an instrument, he said no he sang and had a few albums out. I was thinking but didn't say, "if you stick with it maybe you'll make it". Surprise, surprise. A thought just came to me, I'm going to write my side of "The Journey" to share with you. What I did after both telephone calls; how I shared the information with my sons who didn't know they had a brother; how years ago Jayyidah had found out she had a brother; my stopped up toliet sitting in the hall outside the bathroom fifteen minutes before the filming that morning; information my co-workers shared with me; the woman who told me how one of RUN DMC's albums helped her deal with her father's suicide; how your reuniting Darryl and me has affected so many people. Thank you again for making my family complete, all my children are together. I've added you to my list of, "Earth Angels". Take care, we'll be in touch. xoxo
Love (Lots Of Vital Energy).

Peace, Love & Prosperity

Berncenia

I am a certified family law attorney who has conducted successful adoption searches for more than 30 years (and worked unsuccessfully on my own for 35 years). Pam found my birth family in a matter of weeks, even though my mother used a fake name. I don't do searches any more--I just refer people to Pam. I have recommended her to potential clients and to other lawyers, including in the law book I wrote, Handling Child Custody, Abuse, and Adoption Cases 3d. She is fair, ethical, quick, and in my book, an absolute genius.

Ann M. Haralambie

I came to Pam after reading an article in our local Sierra Vista, AZ newspaper in August 2009. I had found my birth mother when I was 22 (am now 42). I had a story and a name for my father and gave her everything that I knew. Pam spent about 4 months on me and I think almost gave up...but I sent her an email about a week before Christmas and it gave her a boost to check into "one more thing". That "thing" triggered a domino effect and everything fell into place. Pam was able to give me all of my information right before Christmas 2009. She found my deceased father and my three brothers as well as Aunt's, Uncle's and friends of my father. The name that I had for him was a name that he went by when he met my mother, but was not his true name so that made the search difficult, at best. It's not a perfect reunion. My father passed away in 2006, and two of my three brothers don't really care. However, I have one brother that does speak with me and fill's me in on my father's life (we look very much alike). I have an Aunt that I speak with twice a week and Uncle's that I have spoken to, that tell me if my father had known that he had a daughter...."he would have held me high up on a pedestal". My father had a "feeling" about me back in 1966 and he called my mother to see if she was pregnant...she told him that she was not.
Thank you, Pamela, for not giving up on this truly difficult case. Thank you for filling in my missing links and for connecting me to my "other half". Some people just don't get it.....it doesn't have to be a super happy ending....it's that I finally have answers and a picture of him and that connection.

THANK YOU PAMELA!!!!
Deborah Davis

I am always honored and delighted to tell others about my experience with Pamela.

In the spring of 2000, I accidently found Pamela while surfing reunion sites, as I had for several years. She agreed to undertake the search to find my son, my first-born, whom I relinquished for adoption in 1978.

Although there had been efforts made at the time to make it hard to track him down, Pamela found my son. It took several months, which I have been told by others she has worked for is much longer than her searches usually take. During the process, she was patient with my anxiety (OK, to be honest, I was obsessive and possessed). Once my son was located and I contacted him by email, he was skeptical about responding to me. Pamela was in touch with him for 5 LONG weeks while he struggled to decide if he wanted to speak with me. Pamela was kind and patient with him, and supportive and encouraging to me.

On Halloween 2000, my son wrote me an email for the first time. On December 9, 2000 we met face-to-face for the first time since the caseworker took him from my hospital room in 1978.

We have a loving, supportive relationship today. Pamela made it possible -- I had been searching for 4 years on my own. The debt of gratitude I owe Pamela has no bounds. I could not have survived the experience if she hadn't handled it as she did. I remain forever in her debt.

Carol Pinkasavage

Mohnton PA

Pamela Slaton helped me answer the biggest question that burdened me my entire life. Where did I come from? I had always wanted to find my birth mother, but I did not know how to go about doing it. Today, I have a wonderful relationship with my birth mother, as well as three younger sisters, along with aunts and uncles and cousins! I never understood the magnetic pull that blood relations had until I met them all. It is an incredibly real feeling and one that I never would have experienced had it not been for Pamela.

I had always put off having kids because of my "issues" with being adopted. Now, a year and a half later, my wife and I are the proud parents of a beautiful little girl. Meeting and getting to know my biological family changed everything in my life. I now know where I came from. You deserve to know your biological roots. You deserve to have closure in you life. Pamela Slaton can make these things possible. I know you are wondering if you should take the plunge and do this. My advice is to go for it! I know I'm glad I did.

-John Kennedy

I cannot recommend any researcher more highly than Pamela O'Brian. Two years ago, I hired her to try to find information about a cousin of mine who had, in 1928, been "given up" for adoption. With virtually no information to go on, other than an approximate date of birth, within a few weeks, Pam managed to not only get her birth name and birth date, she also was able to locate info regarding the family that adopted her. Pam also tracked this lady through two marriages, and, to finalize the process, managed to locate her, where she was now living in the mid-west. My cousin never knew anything about her birth family, but now, thanks to Pam, my cousin's been reunited with a whole group of relatves, as well as a niece and nephew she never knew. If Pam can find someone after 76 years, whose name had been changed three times, and who, as a child, had been relocated to the mid-west, she can find ANYONE.

-Neilan Stern

Hello everyone. My name is Chris. I am going to try and give you a brief synopsis, if that is possible, of my journey to find my wife's birth mother. Let me tell you that I searched and used many different companies. I spent an insane amount of money with the same results....NOTHING!! I am a New Yorker and very skeptic to begin with so this did not help the situation. Then one day I was given a website, which brought me to Pamela.

I checked out this entire site. It seemed impossible to find someone with this much integrity. I relooked through the website again and again. I thought I was missing something. Where is the catch? Where is the scam? I could not find anything. So what did I do? I called Pamela. We had a great conversation and she explained to me that if she does not find my wife's birth mother or the next of kin.....There would be no fee. I asked for a contract. Pamela e-mailed it to me and we began our journey.

When Pamela began the search, she recommended that I speak with her instead of my wife because it could be a very emotional journey. I spoke with my wife and she agreed. Pamela did let us make the final decision. Our search began on 07/12/05, and I provided Pamela with limited information on my wife's birth mom and siblings. Pamela provided me with more information on the first day then I received from all the companies I tried prior. No, we did not find anyone the first day.

Pamela and I had numerous phone conversations during this search. I was shocked, someone in this business is actually working. I felt like I immediately formed a friendship with her. She was actually putting her heart and soul into this search. She cared! When I realized the passion Pamela had, I automatically gave her my word to provided her with my total cooperation. If she asked me to do something to help....no matter what it was.....I did it. I forgot to tell you that my wife was adopted at birth, right from the hospital. My wife is my entire life so this was the ultimate priority.

After about three weeks of ups and downs, Pamela calls me with some info. Remember not all information is good. Pamela informed me that she found information on my wife's birth mom. I was extremely excited. Pamela gave me the news as though she was telling her best friend, with the dignity in class. She told me the birth mom had died many years ago. I thought great, I now must tell my wife. Not something I was looking forward to do. Pamela asked me if I was alright. I said yes. She then told me that she was not finished. She then told me that my wife not only had two sisters but three. Pamela then told me to give her some more time to find them.

About two days later Pamela called me. She provided me with the names of all three of my wife's sisters and their addresses and phone numbers. We made contact with them on Aug 1, 2005. Your probably wondering why my wife is not writing her story. My wife's story is just beginning. She has not had a minutes rest since Aug 1, 2005.

We had a family reunion on 08/14/05 with my wife's sisters. It was very emotional and fun. By the end of the day, you would have thought that they knew each other forever.

I would like to leave everyone that reads this with a few thought. In todays world it is hard to find someone that is honest, trustworthy, and passionate. If you find someone like I described that would without question be Pamela. I am proud to call her my friend. If you were wondering...I am not on her payroll. Please feel free to contact me via email at laurentravel@optonline.net If you want to talk and ask questions, leave your phone number.

Pamela, Lisa and I can't thank you enough.
We love you.

-Chris

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